Seduce her… feel her… posses her…NOW!
All this is going through your mind when you look at the beautiful woman across from you.
A desire to have her right there and then is blinding you, lust is flowing through your veins. What do you do?
Speak the language that will open her…in every way.

Women of substance are looking for a man who is capable of talking to them on multiple levels. Simply saying the right things restricts you to a limited arsenal. Women of a high caliber see right through verbal manipulations and keep looking deeper to see if there is something more to the man than just his words. And that is when non-verbal communication comes into play. Use it to read women or to send them an inviting subconscious message that they won’t be able to resist. Without even knowing it, they will be there by your side for as long as you desire.

Let’s start with the basics of non-verbal communication that every hombre should know.

THE MEETING & A HANDSHAKE

When meeting her for the first time make sure to shake her hand so she can remember your potent touch for the rest of the evening. Initiate the handshake by embracing her full hand, not just the fingers. No one likes things half way. A firm and well positioned handshake will give her a glimpse of your masculinity with a touch of thoughtfulness and courtesy. Orient your hand so that the palm of you hand is facing to your left, neither up nor down. In addition, smile and look at her with admiration in your eyes. It’s priceless to see a man drifting away from reality when he looks at you…

DINNER & A DATE

Let your non-verbal fluency shine through at the dinner table; sit either next to or 90 degrees to her side. Avoid positioning yourself directly in front of her as this arrangement subconsciously signals that you are an opponent whom she might need to be hostile against. Needless to say, sitting closer to her allows you to get engaged in some tasteful physical contact as well.

There are, of course, situations where the above mentioned positioning is simply not possible. In that case, while sitting right in front of her, turn a bit sideways to her. Knowing what a great hombre you are, I’m confident you will have the best table for the two of you anyway.

Exposing your hands is a sign of openness and honesty. Keep them right in front, giving her an opportunity to visualize them on her body… touching her, teasing her, and giving her chills of pleasure. While talking to her make sure you are not touching your face, nose or especially your mouth extensively as this signals that you might not be telling the truth, or trying to hide something. We just want honest and real people in our lives, just that simple.

Mirror her movements. If she leans back on the chair and you do the same it shows that you are both on the same comfort level, so to speak. On the other hand, if she is tense and sitting up straight or even leaning towards you, which by itself shows her interest in you, do not lounge in your chair like it’s your couch. She might interpret that as arrogance or your lack of interest in her. Be attentive of the surroundings, the fluidity of the situation, and act accordingly.

READ HER

Now let’s get to the intriguing part, reading her. Women are not as difficult to interpret as you might think. Of course, that’s when you know what signals to pay attention to. I’ll give a few secrets away.

One of the most apparent flirting and acceptance signals she might send you is playing with her hair. She may lay her hand on the table with the palm open and facing up. It shows that she is open towards you.

She may also play with the glass in front of her. Especially if it is an elongated glass, she’ll run her fingers up and down slowly. That’s a sign all of us can interpret!

If you’re lucky, maybe she’ll slowly lick her lips while gazing into your eyes as you speak. This is a definite sign she is physically attracted to you. There is only one thing that can be better than knowing she desires you.

Watch your own body language at this point though; if you look into her eyes then lips and then eyes again, it will signal that you want to kiss her; if your eyes jump from the eyes to her lips and then wander somewhere lower on her body, this will simply tell her you want sex. By sending this particular subconscious message to your lady, especially on the first date, it might give her the impression that you are just like the others who only want her in bed. I’ll tell you what will be going through her mind at that point – see ya…never again.

THE TOUCH

Lastly, the magical touch… It can be as powerful as to send chills down her body and always leave her hungry, craving for more. It can advance the relationship significantly by reassuring the woman that you are certainly interested in her and literally can’t keep your hands off of her. I love feeling that a man can barely control himself not to have me right there…

However, you have to be careful not to scare her by being too forward with the touch. Start with universally acceptable areas such as hand, wrist, shoulder, and mid back and only as the relationship advances move to more personal areas. Make sure your touch is soft but manly, the one that keeps her wanting more, wondering what will come next.

Are you ready to become the hombre she will not be able to resist? You have an arsenal, now go ahead and master the artistry of non-verbal communication

ELLA is ‘her’ advice to you. In each issue a beautiful woman serves as our ‘spy,’ and gives away the secrets to meet, seduce and keep the woman of your dreams.

Our author, Laura Skemaite is a professional model working in New York City.  You may have seen her on various runways during Mercedes Benz Fashion Week, on television, music videos, and in magazines. You can also see her images thoughout this article.
Outside of modeling and news media, Laura is an accomplished academic, holding a Bachelors degree in Biology with a minor in Chemistry from Caldwell College. Maintaining a G.P.A. of 4.0 for the entirety of her college career she was accepted as a lifetime member of the Tri-Beta Biology National Honor Society.
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