Ever wonder if you are making the right decision pursuing or staying in a relationship? 
Ever think, ‘I can do better’ or, ‘if only she would … it would be perfect’?   
If you want to be in a happy, long term relationship, then look for a woman who has more than one side to her personality. 

While it’s great to have a girlfriend who is a great cook, and easy to talk to OR is a real animal in the bedroom and can party like the best of them; in the long run, you really need a woman who can be all that and more!   A woman who is balanced and knows the pleasures of enjoying herself while being a stable partner in a relationship.  Yes, these women are harder to find but they are out there and all you have to do is look.  

Ever asked her how she would feel about dressing up in the bedroom?  Do it! 
See what kind of reaction you get.  You will be surprised at how excited she becomes, or you will be slapped!  Either way, you have broken the boundaries of a boring dreadful relationship.  

On the flip side, ask your party girl if she could cook you dinner Saturday night.  Explore the unknown.  The female psyche can be a very interesting destination, as long as you have the courage to explore, and exploration starts with expression.  Express your feeling to her. Tell her what YOU want and dream of. 

How many times have you seen a couple fighting after the guy gets caught cheating and the woman is saying, ‘why didn’t you tell me that’s what you wanted, I could have done that for you!’  Sure, women can be conflicted – like we can – as to who they are and which side dominates, but that doesn’t mean that we have to settle for a woman who is the same thing every day.  Don’t settle!  Find a woman comfortable with being more than one person. You will never know who you will be coming home to!

As for sex, who doesn’t get tired of the same old routine over and over again.  Blah!  Mix it up…  Talk with her, make a plan not to have a plan.  Let her know that you want her to take charge sometime and play out some of her fantasies.  Tell her your desires, perhaps in an email or text to make it easier.  Be careful though, you never know where this will end up.  

How many times have you wished for a threesome?  Ever talk about it with her?  Yes, a delicate conversation but if approached in a politically correct manner…. your chance of success is significantly increased. Never ask before at least three glasses of wine and always refer to a “friend” who’s girl had an interesting experience on a trip to Miami!  See what her reaction is and do not get too excited if she has a positive response. Play it down.  Let her know you are doing this more for her and that you are totally satisfied with just her.  Encourage her to explore her sexuality and live her fantasies.            

All you are doing is helping her enhance the relationship and explore another side of her which you will enjoy together. Again, be careful.  While a good partner is caring, being a control freak with her wild side will sure land you in the dog house. Trust and pay attention.  Listen to what she says and take the hints to heart.  What women say in jest is meant in truth. Let her know you care about her needs.

The perfect woman may not exist but that doesn’t mean you and her should not explore each other’s needs, desires and fantasies.  Open up the conversation.  Every woman is more than one woman inside and it is your job, your duty to allow her to come out and live.  Settling for anything less is a sure ticket to boredom, infidelity and a bad breakup.